WHAT KILLS US? CANCER OR THE FEAR OF?
I have done some very interesting research and reading recently. I read and research all the time because I am just so fascinated with finding out what it is that causes us to have cancer.
Why will every second person in our times have a diagnosis at some point in their lives. Why does the percentage of diagnoses grow ever more rather than shrink.
Why do all the drugs in the world not cure. Why do some people go into ‘spontaneous remission’ whilst others don’t etc etc etc.
I think that Fear is more dangerous than the big C itself
To be told ‘you have cancer’ is probably one of the worst announcements we possibly encounter. Because we believe it is a death sentence. I do not believe that many people greet this diagnosis with ease and an attitude free of worry.
Basically, the moment we hear these words our body goes into a biological mode of fear and threat to life. Like a mouse that is faced with a cat. The mouse panics, fears for their life and runs for their life.
We would also like to run from cancer but we cannot. This means that the biological state of fear for our life does not come to an end, is never resolved so we are continuously in a biological terror mode following the diagnosis.
Even once we have gone through treatment and are in remission…
Our fear may grow again at this stage because we feel alone with the fear of recurrence and we no longer have the support system to catch us when we are fearful. We are meant to go ‘back to normal’ but the fear and perceived threat can hold us back from normality.
Death Sentence ?
I have always had this upset feeling when I hear that people with a stage 4 diagnosis are told how long they have left to live. Who can make this judgement? Basically it is like a death sentence to be told how long we have to live as our subconscious starts to believe that this is what will happen and again what bigger fear could there be?
Would it not be much better to leave a person to live their life and let them decide what they still want to live for? They know themselves that stage 4 means incurable. But every single cancer at every single stage has gone into remission in one or the other person in this world, so there is always a chance and a hope. The fear just adds to the perceived hopelessness.
So, what to do…
Thinking about all this I have come to believe more and more passionately that we musts tackle fear above anything else on a cancer journey in order to truly heal…..because….. our immune system is busy enough with tackling the cancer.
It is a bit crazy to think that it may be the fear that actually creates the biggest problem. The fear of death, the threat to life feeling causes a biological havoc response that gets all our system into a panic mode (like the mouse that runs form the cat) but our body cannot sustain this in the longer term and becomes weak. We may develop symptoms of illness that are created from this fear.
With fear stuck in our thoughts, soul and body we will be going around in a vicious circle of creating a biological war zone where there is no chance for true healing and we create the ideal terrain for cancer to come back.
The feeling of fear and terror has to be resolved.
There are so many ways of working with this and it depends much on what therapeutic approach works for you, for each person. For one person it may be mindfulness and living more consciously with gratitude. It may be meditation or breathing techniques. It may be Emotional Freedom Technique or Rapid Transformational Therapy.
Basically, whilst the fear will be with us at times, we want to calm the mind and trick the body into believing that we are not fearing for our lives. And this is totally possible and necessary.
For example it is possible to show that deep breathing creates a biological effect of calm…this is how we trick our body, soul and mind and the great thing is that what may start as convincing ourselves will soon turn into a true deep feeling of peace.
Whatever it is you can do on a daily basis to calm your breathing, calm your nerves, calm your mind chatter and fearful thoughts, give it a go, make it a priority as it is probably the one most important add in to support your health.
Love,
Sabine